My wonderful friend Anne Marie contacted me tonight because she was distraught and wanted someone to talk to.
Sadly I originally thought that maybe her boyfriend had broken up with her again, or that maybe it was exciting news and not sad news.
But then she sort of dropped a bombshell on me.
One of her close friends, and a very close friend of her boyfriend's had killed herself.
This in itself turned my stomach, but then she sent me another message.
She told me the girl had wandered down the train tracks until a train hit her.
This made me start crying.
I never knew the girl, but to think that someone would take their own life in this fashion tortures me.
What could have hurt her so deeply that she felt the people around her couldn't help her?
They say she was a beautiful girl with ambitions, a girl that everyone loved.
Looking at this situation makes think about how precious life is.
How easily it can be taken away, and how much pain it causes when it's taken away voluntarily.
I'm not meaning to rehash any feelings, incase anyone involved comes across this post.
But it's something that really made me think, and really made me come to terms with a lot of things in my life.
The superficial things shouldn't matter. What matters is how dear life is. You can live without gadgets, you can live without money. But you can't live a full life if you're hurting inside.
You need to let someone know. Let someone help you. Let someone save you from yourself.
So tomorrow when you look in a magazine and see an IPhone and drool over it, or when you see a new plasma screen and wish you could have it, take a moment to think about this girl and think about the fact that you're alive, and that you're happy. And that that's all that should truly matter.
I hope for you all to have my two good friends in your prayers, because I'm sure now more than ever they need it. This cannot be an easy time for them.
I'm sorry for such a grim post. Hopefully later today or tomorrow I can be back to my cheery self. But for now I felt this was too important to ignore.
I never knew her, but from what I've heard I wish I had. It sounds like she was a wonderful girl. Right now I'm worried about my close friends and how this is affecting them. I hope they will pull through.
I hope that wherever she is now, she's happier.
16 comments:
I am so sad for this girl and the people who loved her. You wrote a beautiful post that I will continue to think about. Life is precious!
That was a very nice post Lee. Sometimes the thoughts and ways you feel inside, which is a place no one else can go to and really understand just ends up being too much to handle. And some people don't get the help they need and finally need a way out. Even when you get help, you still sometimes can;t help but wonder what it would be like to be done, with everything.
It's hard to put yourself in someone else's shoes, but no one may know what this girl was really going through, maybe she didn't even know.It is really a battle, and sometimes, people lose the battle and feel they can't battle anymore. it's incredibly sad, I hope you can be there for your friend who knew her.
Life is precious. This is a true reminder of that.
This is a very difficult position and experience! My thoughts and prayers go out to you and your friends and family!
That is awful. So sad that she felt like she had no other option
I had a similar experience yesterday. My mom called me with news that a friend of mine tried to kill himself. Luckily he called his mom before and she rushed over there. He was in the kitchen with a plastic bag over his head, inside the bag he had put the hose from the fridge and then duct taped the bag around his neck. His mom's husbad ran in and ripped the bag off of his head. They got there just in time to save his life.
Life is precious and I cherish it everyday.
So true, Lee. I haven't had anyone close to me kill themselves, but I work with a lot of teenagers who have tried and if they express any feelings of suicide, we take that VERY seriously.
This was a beautiful post.
My thoughts go out to her and her family and friends.
I wish we could tell everyone in the whole world that there is a suicide hotline that anyone can call day or night and talk to someone before they decide to go through with it. So sad. I'm sorry for your friend's loss Lee.
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That is one of my fears, as a mom. I hope that I can provide enough love and happiness and teach my child about these things and that we are ALWAYS there for her in ANY situation. I was brought back to this sort of sadness when I was introduced to the documentary, The Bridge which focuses on suicides from the Golden Gate Bridge. Very sad and my heart goes out to all involved in these situations.
Thank you for this post. Perhaps it will help someone else or maybe open someones elses eyes to a friend or loved one that may need help.
Oh how horrible? For anyone to do that hurts so many people. I agree, we need to focus on how life is so precious.
I am so sorry to hear that. I will say a prayer.
That is very sad, unfortunately things like this do happen. Life is very precious. I actually just posted something that I had written last year that happened to me (bad car accident). It really makes ya stop and think about everything that you normally take for granted. My thoughts and prayers also go out to your friend's friend.
Very insightful and thoughtful post. And true. Prayers for all involved with this.
How very sad! I too agree that life is precious but for some people it isn't. I know first hand the effects of clinical depression and it's unexplainable. It can also be hidden very well to people who don't live with the person.
I'll pray for this girl's family and friends.
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